It can be useful to talk to someone about their experiences of feeling ready for sex — and having sex for the first time — because they may have experienced the same feelings as you. Another important factor to consider is sexual health and safe sex practices. If you talk to your general practitioner GP , they can give you information on how to stay sexually healthy and make your first time more enjoyable. This information can help keep you safe and protected from STIs or an unintended pregnancy. Practicing safe sex shows that you not only have respect for the other person, but yourself. Using barrier protection, such as condoms, diaphragms and dental dams are safe sex methods that can reduce the risk of most STIs, however they need to be used correctly.
Understanding Erotophobia or the Fear of Sex
Thinking about having sex for the first time?
Feeling anxious sometimes about our prowess between the sheets is normal, but when it happens repeatedly, this can affect our quality of life. So, what can you do to dispel the doubts and lead a healthy sex life? Sexual anxiety — or sexual performance anxiety — is something that affects men and women of all ages, regardless of how much experience they have with intercourse. For some, this type of anxiety is short-lived and may appear briefly in the wake of a new sexual encounter. Other people, however, might find it difficult to enjoy a wholesome sex life because of it, and they may experience this type of anxiety with more regularity.
I'm a virgin and I'm scared of sex. Am I frigid?
I'm 22, a virgin and have had only two relationships due to my complete frigidity. I've always been highly uncomfortable with physical contact of any kind. Hand-holding, caressing and kissing bore and intimidate me and sex just scares me. I want to be physical only when I'm very drunk, and I've never gone past kissing.
Sex can be many things: fun, spontaneous, exciting, and relaxing, but for some people, sex is a source of fear and anxiety. We all want to be sexually confident women who feel good about their desires and choices, but not everybody is like that. And there can be many different reasons that women fear sex.